Our Last Valentine’s Day

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Had I known this was going to be our last Valentine’s Day, I would have stayed in that restaurant with you. Long after the check was paid. Long after the patrons, the waiters and the chefs had cleared out. I would have taken you to the dance floor and swayed to the sound of your voice, the dim lights glowing above like stars in the night sky. The band played, the waitress kept the drinks coming, and our hands held amidst a table full of food that we barely touched. Holding onto you, I felt so at peace. I stared into your eyes, smiling, murmuring how odd the night began, and how perfectly it ended.  Continue reading

Loneliness is Underrated

“People don’t realize this but loneliness, it’s underrated.” No, I didn’t write it. Yes, it’s from a movie. Doesn’t make it less true.

It’s no secret that I absolutely adore (500) Days of Summer. As a film, it transcends generations through its boldfaced honesty and reaches to the hopeless romantic in each of us. Tom, the hopeful hero of the story, is a character who we all can relate to. Just like him, we’re eventually drawn to the idea of true love at some point in our lives. But that’s through no fault of our own. We’d see it in movies, hear it play on the radio, and read about it in books. We’re exposed to it at such a young age that it becomes more of a goal than our own dreams, which is pretty much what happened to Tom. He’s the only enduring human trait throughout the story, even when the film accentuates those wondrous moments when he’s side by side with the girl of his dreams, then exaggerates his misery when he’s all alone. And isn’t that how it always is when we’re in love? We believe in it so blindly that we feel we need each other in order to be truly happy. It’s only when Tom climbs out of the depths of his own sorrow that he learns to be happy for himself and to embrace his life because of it. That to me is the true message of the film. So, through the context of (500) Days of Summer, I’m going to show you that being single doesn’t mean you have to be miserable. In fact, it may be the best thing that ever happened to you.

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